"communication" posts

The changing face of the modern family

It’s International Day of Families, so I’m sharing my thoughts on how the family unit has changed in modern society. For most, we can’t control the shape or makeup of our family, particularly after a separation.

Co-parenting at Christmas tips 2023

The Pause Button retrains our brain not to interrupt during a conversation. It encourages us to very deliberately pause for a few seconds and take a breath instead of cutting short our co-parent’s thoughts. We can find pausing difficult because we may not want to consider the needs of our co-parent. They might be inconvenient for us, but pausing allows us to fully focus on who we’re talking to and what they’re saying.

Guide to living together during your separation or divorce

We are now seeing more and more couples living ‘under the one roof’ during and post-separation, often because of circumstances that cannot be controlled or changed quickly, for example, inability to find alternative accommodation, financial pressure or because you want the children’s lives to be disrupted as little as possible.

What is parallel parenting and how does it differ from co-parenting?

Parallel parenting is a unique arrangement that can be a consciously made decision or simply fallen into by circumstance. It is when two parents who are unable to communicate with each other in a respectful way can co-parent effectively by disengaging from one another and having very formal or limited contact.

amicable's Behaviour Charter and the A, B, C of a successful separation

Learning from our customers is a cornerstone of what we do, and so we have devised the amicable Behaviour Charter to guide and support through your separation. The good thing about behaviour is that it can be learned. It doesn’t have to come naturally… and it isn’t reliant on anyone else. You can learn behaviour and then choose to apply it.

5 more tips for an amicable divorce

So the cat’s out of the bag… the separation is public. Friends, family & maybe children know what’s happening. Anger, hurt, betrayal & fear are all swilling round… so what do you do? Hire a […]

Why Can’t We Agree?

Unhelpful thinking patterns – Why can’t we agree? Perhaps you and your partner have started to make decisions about the future apart now you have decided to separate. Perhaps you’re negotiating or mediating and have […]

5 Divorce negotiation tips for your divorce settlement

If you’re struggling with your divorce negotiations, we’ve provided below our top negotiation tips to help you settle your divorce yourselves. We’ve also included some things to watch out for that might mean you’re better off getting some negotiation support from one of our divorce coaches. […]

The pros and cons of co-parenting around the corner

When my wife and I separated, we decided to remain living close to one another as we co-parented our two-year-old son. This, at least, was our mid-term interim solution – our plan for a couple of years before we could go ahead and dissolve our Civil Partnership and reach a financial settlement.

Advice to help teens adjust to your divorce

Sue Atkins, internationally recognised Parenting Expert, discusses how the process of divorcing can vary depending on the age and personalities of your children. Read her helpful guide on…

Anger: how to deal with this destructive emotion during your divorce

Divorcing is an emotional rollercoaster, and one of the emotions that you will nearly inevitably experience is anger. Dr Isabelle Hung discusses navigating anger during divorce...

5 tips to help you communicate with your co-parent after separating

Author of the breaking dad blog and Instagram page Daniel Betts, teaches you how to communicate better with your ex after parental separation.

Introducing the amicable co-parenting app

amicable just launched a brand new app to support couples with parenting after a divorce or separation.

Coronavirus (COVID-19) Co-parenting Guide

This is a really testing time for all of us. But if you are navigating separated parenting as well as dealing with Coronavirus (COVID-19), then the anxiety levels can start to feel overwhelming. But don't worry, we are here to help, and have put together some FAQ's and advice to support you.

How to deal with frustration as you divorce or separate

I’m sure, like me, you’ve been in a position of feeling frustrated during your divorce. Often, I see this happen when one party feels they just can’t seem to get through to their ex and make them understand their point. As a result, they feel frustrated and irritated, angry and powerless. Here are some tips on how to deal with divorce frustration as you separate.

3 tips to help you communicate with your ex as you separate or divorce

Communication with your ex during a divorce or separation can be fraught and full of stress. When you are caught in a cycle of conflict, with hurt and fear in the mix, it can be all too easy for tempers to flare, for things to be said and done, and for the temperature of the discussion to rise very quickly. Here are three top tips for smoother communication with your ex.

Five tips for co-parenting over Christmas

Marcie Shaoul shares her expertise on navigating the festive season with your co-parent.

3 Tips for the Festive Season

Christmas can be a tough time of year if you’ve recently separated. If you’ve been together for years and this is your first Christmas, it’s pretty hard to imagine how difficult it can be, especially […]

Divorce goals - what are they and why should you have them?

Why create goals? Focusing on the future rather than dwelling on the past leads to a more positive mindset for everyone during separation. There are lots of decisions that need to be made when you […]

How much is communication whilst you separate costing you?

Whilst amicable is sometimes an aspiration rather than a reality when you start the divorce process, one thing is certain. To sort out separation you have to communicate with each other. How you communicate, and […]

Summer survival guide for separated parents

It’s that time of year when, if you’re separated parents, you have shared summer holidays looming. For any parent, the long holiday requires some careful thought and preparation, but for separated and often working parents, […]

Christmas, divorce and separated co-parenting

Welcome to the amicable guide to Christmas, divorce and separated parenting. If it’s your first Christmas as separated parents or even the first time you’ll be without the kids  – don’t worry – our guide […]

Divorcing with kids – The amicable guide

If you’re divorcing with kids, prioritizing their needs during your divorce will help them thrive in the future. A good way to minimise the impact on children is to create a parenting plan. A parenting […]

amicable’s co-parenting guide for christmas

Is this your first Christmas as a separated parent? Not sure what to expect or how to handle your new family set-up. This blog offers pragmatic advice to help you keep your Co-Parenting Christmas, merry. […]

What you should read before you send that text to your ex

The journey through a divorce or separation brings a range of emotions from shock, fear, anger relief and eventual acceptance. Combine the early emotions of anger and fear with the need to communicate and sort […]