Divorce as allies: communication tips for successful co-parenting
In this episode, Kate is joined by Allison O’Brien, a communication and leadership development consultant, to discuss techniques for communicating with an ex-partner or co-parent and why some people might need more time to get on board with the idea of an amicable divorce.
Divorce as allies: communication tips for successful co-parenting
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About the episode
Allison starts off by sharing the story of her parents' separation, and then her own experience with a relationship breakdown. She also explains how her professional skills helped her through her divorce and in establishing a positive co-parenting relationship. Kate and Allison go on to discuss the pushback that Allison received after her TED Talk "How to divorce as allies, not enemies" was released and what problems we’re still facing as a society that make the concept of an amicable, collaborative divorce so hard to accept. Allison finishes off with some expert tips on communicating with an ex-partner to remain civil and co-parent successfully.
A summary of what we cover
- Allison O’Brien’s personal stories about separation
- How professional skills can help improve communication skills
- Overcoming negative perceptions of amicable separations
- Top tips for ex-partner and co-parent collaboration
About our guest
Allison O’Brien is a communication and leadership development consultant who helps individuals and companies transform how they work through culture, communication and the science of listening. Known for embracing risk and change, her expertise lies in uncovering the insights needed to improve conversations, manage emotions and build genuine connection.
When her marriage of 15 years was ending, she committed to using the same principles she teaches in her work to navigate her divorce without lawyers or mediators involved. As a result, she maintains a solid friendship and collaborative co-parenting relationship with her former spouse. All of which she shares in her recent TED.com talk.
For O’Brien, the power of listening is the key to changing the way people live, love and lead.
More resources
Get in touch with Allison on LinkedIn, and you can watch her inspiring TED Talk "How to divorce as allies, not enemies" here.
You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.
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