"movingon" posts

Living together after separation: intimacy, boundaries and break-up sex

In this episode, I am joined by an award-winning author, Cate Campbell, to discuss intimacy, whether trial separations are a good idea, and boundaries while living together post-separation.

Surviving cancer, traumatic separation and single-parent guilt with Emma Campbell

In this episode, Kate is joined by author and speaker Emma Campbell, better known to her Instagram followers as Limitless Em, to discuss her separation stories, cancer diagnosis and passion for running.

How to deal with divorce as a man: Challenges and top tips

Divorce is one of life’s biggest upheavals. As a man, you may feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you to deal with emotional turmoil, financial instability and a loss of identity all at the same time.

Five arguments all couples need to have - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by therapist, author and former divorce lawyer Joanna Harrison to share expert tips on how to have a healthy argument in relationships, as parents and post-separation.

Seven ‘new beginnings’ to embrace after divorce or separation

The end of your relationship marks an opportunity to take your life in new directions. From a new career to a new partner, we explore seven pivotal moments post-divorce.

The three G's with Paul Roseby - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by Paul Roseby OBE to talk about his separation and divorce story.

A guide to buying a home during divorce

Buying a home while going through a divorce might seem overwhelming, but it can also mark a positive step toward a fresh start. With the right guidance, you can navigate the legal and financial aspects and feel empowered. Here’s a simple guide to help you on your journey.

How to untie the knot amicably - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate was joined by Joe & Kate Sharp, two amicable customers, to share their divorce story.

Navigating name changes in relationships - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate was joined by the Founder and Managing Director of NameSwitch, Cécile Mazuet-Eller, to discuss navigating name changes in relationships, separation, and divorce.

Finding joy in relationships, separation and divorce with Ali Mortimer - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by Coach and Author Ali Mortimer to discuss navigating difficult moments in relationships and how finding joy can help in this journey.

Navigating the summer holidays if you’re thinking of separating

Navigating activities, organising childcare, and keeping your children preoccupied is no mean feat, and adding a separation on top can feel impossible.

How to cope with divorce stress

In this blog, we explore common things that might cause stress during your divorce and how to reduce these as you separate.

How to forgive after divorce with the founder of Self Space - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by Jodie Cariss, Founder of the online therapy platform Self Space to discuss the emotional journey of separation and the role of forgiveness in the healing process.

The role of grandparents in divorced and separated families - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by the Founder of the Bristol Grandparents Support Group, Jane Jackson, and amicable Divorce Specialist, Anthony Syder to discuss the role of grandparents during parental separation and divorce.

Do feelings of loneliness in a relationship lead to separation? - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by former family barrister turned therapist and author, Charlotte Friedman.

Navigating divorce and new partners with Professor Lisa Doodson

In this episode, Kate was joined by Professor Lisa Doodson and Rebecca Jones from amicable to discuss introducing new partners and navigating blended families following a separation or divorce.

What is co-dependency in relationships? with Mark Groves - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate was joined by Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist and founder of 'Create the Love', to discuss co-dependency in relationships, separation and divorce.

Guide to dividing property after divorce

For separating couples who are also homeowners, dividing their property tends to be one of their biggest priorities when making financial arrangements.

Managing your wellbeing during a divorce

In this blog, we will explore how the process of separation and divorce can affect mental health and why it's essential to prioritise open communication and ask for help if you are struggling.

My divorce story and co-parenting journey with Ella Kenion - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate was joined by Ella Kenion to talk about her experience of divorce and co-parenting.

The best moments from The Divorce Podcast

To celebrate this special occasion, we're taking a trip down memory lane and bringing you the absolute best bits from our most impactful and insightful episodes.

Octopus Money and divorce specialists amicable tie the knot

Octopus has acquired amicable, the leader in helping couples separate in a kinder and more affordable way.

When help with divorce is the right option with Nichole Farrow - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by Relationship & Family Coach, Nichole Farrow to discuss professional help during a separation or divorce.

What is emotional freedom technique? with Liz Harrington - The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by Liz Harrington to discuss EFT coaching and how it can help in the context of divorce or separation.

How to cope with divorce or separation

Separation is an emotional journey with legal and financial consequences. Struggling to cope with divorce or separation is a natural part of...

Rebuilding confidence after divorce with The Midlife Mentors - The Divorce Podcast

Kate is joined by The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James Davis, to discuss building self-confidence post-separation & divorce.

Building confidence after divorce

Midlife often brings with it a unique set of challenges, but it also presents the perfect opportunity to reevaluate our lives, set new goals, and rediscover our true potential [...]

Parenting apart with divorce parenting expert, Christina McGhee

Kate is joined by Christina McGhee, an internationally recognised divorce parenting expert, speaker, and author, in The Divorce Podcast to talk about how to co-parent and parenting apart.

amicable's resources for separated parents over the summer

Look through some of these resources as they may help ease the process of adapting to your new life parenting apart.

How to help a friend or family member through a separation or divorce

When a friend or family member separates from their partner, it can be hard to know what to say or do. No separation is the same but [...]

Adjusting to a new lifestyle post-divorce

Is fear holding you back from leaving an unhealthy relationship? You’re not alone. Here are five tips to help you prepare if you’re planning on separating from your partner...

The changing face of the modern family

It’s International Day of Families, so I’m sharing my thoughts on how the family unit has changed in modern society. For most, we can’t control the shape or makeup of our family, particularly after a separation.

10 Tips for dating after divorce or separation

If you've recently separated from your partner, Valentine’s Day can be particularly unhelpful as the world is bombarded with romantic comedies, flowers and couples celebrating. Valentine’s Day can feel overwhelming, bringing into sharp contrast feelings of loss. If this is you, we’ve already written a blog to help you reframe how you feel about the day with our tips and advice which...

How a mortgage in your 60s can help you move on post-divorce

We're [LiveMore](https://livemorecapital.com/), a specialist mortgage lender for people aged 50 to 90+ and we talk to Audrey about her experience of divorce and how gettting a mortgage in her 60s helped her to move on and rebuild

How can divorce impact children?

We’re bombarded with headlines about how bad divorce is for children. In reality, it’s ‘bad’ separations that can have a negative impact on children, due to two main culprits - parental absence and conflict. It’s not always possible to control these, however, if you’re able to, then this will help your children to cope with your separation. In this blog, I’ll explore why parental absence and conflict are so damaging for children and the benefits of both parents continuing to see their children post-separation.

Five tips to help you when searching for a new home after divorce or separation

Going through a separation presents a unique set of challenges that very few of us are prepared for. Not only you are facing the re-organisation of your life (and your family’s), but you also must go through the legal and emotional process of the divorce (challenging for most) as well as thinking about your next home and where you will be living.

How to forgive your ex during or after a divorce or separation

In this blog, we explore forgiveness. What it is, the pros and cons of forgiveness and why you might choose to forgive your partner during a divorce or separation.

Changing your name post-divorce

Changing name after divorce of separation can be a symbolic way to disassociate from the past and mark the start of a new life chapter.

Healing from divorce and the healing curve

Divorce is commonly accepted now as one of the most traumatic experiences you may have in life. I know it certainly was for me. The first few months after my separation were incredibly challenging – I lost two stone in six weeks, stopped sleeping properly, couldn’t really eat, and spent many hours ruminating on what I could have done differently to avoid this.

Separating at Christmas – advice for people going through a breakup on Christmas and the festive season

When I first started researching heartbreak for my comedy writing and performance a decade ago, I once stumbled upon a graph illustrating the times of the year when breakups, according to Facebook status updates, typically peaked. Christmas Day itself was deemed ‘too cruel’ and was a slower time for getting dumped. However [...]

Divorce party

A divorce party is something that some people choose to do to mark the end of a very difficult and emotionally draining process, and for other’s, it’s simply an opportunity to celebrate the start of their new chapter with family and friends. Whilst it’s

The unexpected joys of breakups

One bright autumn morning during the ambiguously gradual unravelling of my five-year relationship, I strolled briskly from our rented house on Brixton Hill across Brockwell Park to the Lido. I was looking forward to the mindful back and forth of swimming bracing lengths.

How to live together during a divorce or separation

We’re now seeing more and more couples who are separated or divorced but living together ‘under one roof’. Often, this is because of circumstances that cannot be controlled or changed quickly.

How to cope with separation

There are things you can do that’ll help you cope with separation in order to find a path forward towards a life that not only do you want, but you deserve.

My ex is having a baby

My ex recently told me he was expecting a baby with his partner. I knew that it was likely to happen, it's been years since we separated and we've both moved on and have committed relationships with our partners so when I heard the news, I was surprised that it sparked a series of unexpected emotions.

How to communicate with your ex after a breakup – an amicable co-parenting guide

Author of the breaking dad blog and Instagram page Daniel Betts, teaches you how to communicate better with your ex after parental separation.

Life after divorce – what to do and how to move on

There’s lots of advice out there about how to move past your divorce or what you ‘should do’ when it comes to navigating life after divorce. For many of us, we’re not able to hear or receive that kind of information when it’s given – however, well-meaning the narrator. Like so many things in life, timing is everything. So, maybe don’t read this blog like that… save it somewhere so you can read it bit by bit when you’re ready. Ignore the stuff that grates and take what you can and pay it forward. And before you hate me for looking smug or appearing to have everything sorted – I didn’t get it right, it took me ages, many mistakes were (and still are) made and some of what comes next is from the school of ‘do as I say; not as I do/did’. I’ve tried to pull together the best of what I did right and wrong and some of things I’ve learnt from working with amazing divorcing couples over the years…I hope something helps.

A new direction: Changing careers during your divorce

In a poll of British workers from 2019, 64% admitted that finding a new job was a priority for 2020. For many people, work accounts for a huge amount of their time, so finding the right job is essential both emotionally and financially. If you’re in the process of going through a divorce, changing your work life might be a necessity for financial stability, but it might also represent freedom, or part of rebuilding your life and confidence in this new chapter. With so many decisions to be made during this period, here are some considerations to take on board if you’re contemplating a change of career.

How do you move on after a breakup, separation, or divorce? – A guide to getting back out there

Following a separation or divorce, it can be tricky to get back into the dating game. Dating expert Charly Lester, who is the co-founder of Lumen, the dating app for over 50s, shares her advice on moving on.

Lara's story: Five things I wish I knew before I got divorced

Divorce is such an alien experience. Our world is turned upside down and inside out, and we often find ourselves reacting to what is happening, rather than standing back and trying to rationalise and plan. Whilst everyone’s situation (financial and otherwise) and reasons for divorce vary widely, there are definitely things that are helpful to know in advance. Here are the things I wish I knew before I got divorced.

Three tips to help you communicate with your ex as you separate or divorce

Communication with your ex during a divorce or separation can be fraught and full of stress. When you are caught in a cycle of conflict, with hurt and fear in the mix, it can be all too easy for tempers to flare, for things to be said and done, and for the temperature of the discussion to rise very quickly. Here are three top tips for smoother communication with your ex.

Five things adult children of divorce want their parents to know

Divorcing couples with young children are inundated with advice on how to tell the children and how to act in their best interests, but there is very little advice or research out there to help you navigate talking to your adult children about your split. I’ve talked to grown-up children of divorced and divorcing parents and put together the top 5 things they want you to know about how your divorce is affecting them.

Can you divorce and still own property together? Guide to divorce and house ownership

Divorce and house ownership can seem a little complicated, but it doesn’t need to be. There are a few reasons why, when you divorce joint property ownership may be the best option available...

Is it over? Should I leave?

Deciding a relationship is over and deciding to leave are two very different things: leaving doesn’t always follow the decision that the relationship is over...

Are you sure it’s over? How to Brexit amicably

A lot of commentators have compared Brexit to a divorce, albeit a very complex one. We at amicable know that when you divorce, especially if you have children, the way you approach it and the […]

How to save money on your divorce with timing tips

It may be a cliché to say timing is everything, but in divorce it’s crucial to making it through amicably with your heart and bank balance intact. In this blog we’ll show you how to […]

Christmas, co-parenting and divorce

Welcome to the amicable guide to Christmas, divorce and separated parenting. If it’s your first Christmas as separated parents or even the first time you’ll be without the kids  – don’t worry – our guide […]

How long does a divorce take?

I’m frequently asked how long it takes to get a divorce. Usually, the answer is ‘many months’. I imagine if you’re the instigator of the divorce, this isn’t what you want to hear.

Post-divorce checklist: simplify your arrangements post-divorce

amicable’s Post-divorce checklist makes sorting out arrangements after divorce a little easier by breaking down all the necessary things to change after divorce […]

What to do with your wedding rings when your divorce is official

So you’ve decided to divorce, the Final order (previously called the decree absolute) has arrived but what do you do with your wedding rings now that your divorce is official? Sell them You might want to clear out everything to do […]

Six questions to ask yourself before reconciling with your ex

Working out if a relationship is completely over versus going through a bad patch can be a difficult thing. Relationship breakdown is a process after-all – but not a linear one. It often involves a […]

How does divorce affect mental health?

Divorce or separation is an emotional journey with legal and financial consequences. Whilst the legal and financial processes are usually well considered, the emotional journey is often neglected, including considering how your separation will affect your own mental health.

How to rebuild your life after a divorce - helpful guide & tips

Regardless of whose decision it was to divorce, the end of a marriage can bring about a rollercoaster of unexpected feelings of shame, self-doubt, fear, and insecurity. You might worry that you’ll never be happy […]

The divorce survival guide to Valentine’s Day

Here it comes again, Valentine’s Day; the day when the whole world seems to be loved up and happy. A weather girl will propose live on air, flowers will double in price and restaurants will […]

How can style boost your confidence during divorce

Jacynth Bassett, founder of The Bias Cut shares her tips on using style to boost your confidence during or post-divorce. As a mother going through a divorce, a top priority is to be a solid […]

Grayson Perry’s new Channel 4 documentary and how to get involved

amicable is working with Channel4 on a ground-breaking new documentary series with Turner Prize-winning artist Grayson Perry. Grayson would like to speak to couples in the process of establishing new lives after a separation, with […]