"movingon" posts

The changing face of the modern family

It’s International Day of Families, so I’m sharing my thoughts on how the family unit has changed in modern society. For most, we can’t control the shape or makeup of our family, particularly after a separation.

10 Tips for dating after divorce or separation

If you've recently separated from your partner, Valentine’s Day can be particularly unhelpful as the world is bombarded with romantic comedies, flowers and couples celebrating. Valentine’s Day can feel overwhelming, bringing into sharp contrast feelings of loss. If this is you, we’ve already written a blog to help you reframe how you feel about the day with our tips and advice which...

How a mortgage in your 60s can help you move on post-divorce

We're [LiveMore](https://livemorecapital.com/), a specialist mortgage lender for people aged 50 to 90+ and we talk to Audrey about her experience of divorce and how gettting a mortgage in her 60s helped her to move on and rebuild

How can divorce impact children?

We’re bombarded with headlines about how bad divorce is for children. In reality, it’s ‘bad’ separations that can have a negative impact on children, due to two main culprits - parental absence and conflict. It’s not always possible to control these, however, if you’re able to, then this will help your children to cope with your separation. I n this blog, I’ll explore why parental absence and conflict are so damaging for children and the benefits of both parents continuing to see their children post-separation.

5 Tips to help you when searching for a new home after divorce or separation

Going through a separation presents a unique set of challenges that very few of us are prepared for. Not only you are facing the re-organisation of your life (and your family’s), but you also must go through the legal and emotional process of the divorce (challenging for most) as well as thinking about your next home and where you will be living.

How to forgive during a divorce or separation

In this blog, we explore forgiveness. What it is, the pros and cons of forgiveness and why you might choose to forgive your partner during a divorce or separation. There are lots of reasons why a couple might choose to separate. Whilst it’s common for people to simply grow apart and the separation is mutual, there are occasions where it might be caused by one person’s actions. For example, if they have cheated on their partner.

Guide to living together during your separation or divorce

We are now seeing more and more couples living ‘under the one roof’ during and post-separation, often because of circumstances that cannot be controlled or changed quickly, for example, inability to find alternative accommodation, financial pressure or because you want the children’s lives to be disrupted as little as possible.

My ex is having a baby

My ex recently told me he was expecting a baby with his partner. I knew that it was likely to happen, it's been years since we separated and we've both moved on and have committed relationships with our partners so when I heard the news, I was surprised that it sparked a series of unexpected emotions.

How to change back to your maiden name after Divorce or Separation

Changing name after divorce of separation can be a symbolic way to disassociate from the past and mark the start of a new life chapter.

Post-divorce checklist - what to do & things to change after divorce

amicable’s post-divorce checklist makes the post-divorce to do list a little easier by breaking down what you need to do on a life admin basis. Tips for post-divorce practicalities; 1. Try and do all your […]

Does divorce affect your mental health?

Divorce and separation is an emotional journey with legal and financial consequences. Whilst the legal and financial processes are usually well considered, the emotional journey is often neglected. If you’ve been through a divorce, you’ve […]

The divorce survival guide to Valentine’s Day

Here it comes again, Valentine’s Day; the day when the whole world seems to be loved up and happy. A weather girl will propose live on air, flowers will double in price and restaurants will […]

Healing from divorce and the healing curve

Divorce is commonly accepted now as one of the most traumatic experiences you may have in life. I know it certainly was for me. The first few months after my separation were incredibly challenging – I lost two stone in six weeks, stopped sleeping properly, couldn’t really eat, and spent many hours ruminating on what I could have done differently to avoid this.

Separating at Christmas

When I first started researching heartbreak for my comedy writing and performance a decade ago, I once stumbled upon a graph illustrating the times of the year when breakups, according to Facebook status updates, typically peaked. Christmas Day itself was deemed ‘too cruel’ and was a slower time for getting dumped. However [...]

Divorce party

A divorce party is something that some people choose to do to mark the end of a very difficult and emotionally draining process, and for other’s, it’s simply an opportunity to celebrate the start of their new chapter with family and friends. Whilst it’s

The unexpected joys of breakups

One bright autumn morning during the ambiguously gradual unravelling of my five-year relationship, I strolled briskly from our rented house on Brixton Hill across Brockwell Park to the Lido. I was looking forward to the mindful back and forth of swimming bracing lengths.

Four tips for coping with separation

“It’s over.” These two words, when used in the context of a relationship, can have a deep, lasting and upsetting impact on both the person receiving them, as well as the person delivering them. The end of a relationship marks the end of your journey with that other person and

5 tips to help you communicate with your co-parent after separating

Author of the breaking dad blog and Instagram page Daniel Betts, teaches you how to communicate better with your ex after parental separation.

Life after divorce – A rough guide

There’s lots of advice out there about how to move past your divorce or what you ‘should do’ when it comes to navigating life after divorce. For many of us, we’re not able to hear or receive that kind of information when it’s given – however, well-meaning the narrator. Like so many things in life, timing is everything. So, maybe don’t read this blog like that… save it somewhere so you can read it bit by bit when you’re ready. Ignore the stuff that grates and take what you can and pay it forward. And before you hate me for looking smug or appearing to have everything sorted – I didn’t get it right, it took me ages, many mistakes were (and still are) made and some of what comes next is from the school of ‘do as I say; not as I do/did’. I’ve tried to pull together the best of what I did right and wrong and some of things I’ve learnt from working with amazing divorcing couples over the years…I hope something helps.

A New Direction: Changing Careers During Your Divorce

In a poll of British workers from 2019, 64% admitted that finding a new job was a priority for 2020. For many people, work accounts for a huge amount of their time, so finding the right job is essential both emotionally and financially. If you’re in the process of going through a divorce, changing your work life might be a necessity for financial stability, but it might also represent freedom, or part of rebuilding your life and confidence in this new chapter. With so many decisions to be made during this period, here are some considerations to take on board if you’re contemplating a change of career.

Moving on post separation - dating expert Charly Lester

Following a separation or divorce, it can be tricky to get back into the dating game. Dating expert Charly Lester, who is the co-founder of Lumen, the dating app for over 50s, shares her advice on moving on.

Lara's story: Five things I wish I knew before I got divorced

Divorce is such an alien experience. Our world is turned upside down and inside out, and we often find ourselves reacting to what is happening, rather than standing back and trying to rationalise and plan. Whilst everyone’s situation (financial and otherwise) and reasons for divorce vary widely, there are definitely things that are helpful to know in advance. Here are the things I wish I knew before I got divorced.

3 tips to help you communicate with your ex as you separate or divorce

Communication with your ex during a divorce or separation can be fraught and full of stress. When you are caught in a cycle of conflict, with hurt and fear in the mix, it can be all too easy for tempers to flare, for things to be said and done, and for the temperature of the discussion to rise very quickly. Here are three top tips for smoother communication with your ex.

5 things your adult child wants you to know about how your divorce is affecting them

Divorcing couples with young children are inundated with advice on how to tell the children and how to act in their best interests, but there is very little advice or research out there to help you navigate talking to your adult children about your split. I’ve talked to grown-up children of divorced and divorcing parents and put together the top 5 things they want you to know about how your divorce is affecting them.

Can you get a divorce & still own property together? Guide to divorce & house ownership

Divorce, when you own a house, can seem a little complicated, but it doesn’t need to be. There are a few reasons why you may want to still own a house with

How to know when it's over and if you should leave

It’s that time of year… Christmas wasn’t the Waitrose/Morrisons advert you’d been hoping for and the strains of spending the festive break in a flagging relationship have pushed you to seriously consider your options. You are not […]

Are you sure it’s over? How to Brexit amicably

A lot of commentators have compared Brexit to a divorce, albeit a very complex one. We at amicable know that when you divorce, especially  if you have children, the way you approach it and the […]

How to save money on your divorce with timing tips

It may be a cliché to say timing is everything, but in divorce it’s crucial to making it through amicably with your heart and bank balance intact. In this blog we’ll show you how to […]

Christmas, divorce and separated co-parenting

Welcome to the amicable guide to Christmas, divorce and separated parenting. If it’s your first Christmas as separated parents or even the first time you’ll be without the kids  – don’t worry – our guide […]

What to do with your weddings rings when your divorce is official

So you’ve decided to divorce, the Decree Absolute’s arrived but what do you do with your wedding rings now that your divorce is official? Sell them You might want to clear out everything to do […]

Grayson Perry’s new Channel 4 documentary and how to get involved

amicable is working with Channel4 on a ground-breaking new documentary series with Turner Prize-winning artist Grayson Perry. Grayson would like to speak to couples in the process of establishing new lives after a separation, with […]

6 questions to ask yourself before reconciling with your ex

Working out if a relationship is completely over versus going through a bad patch can be a difficult thing. Relationship breakdown is a process after-all – but not a linear one. It often involves a […]

How to rebuild your life after a divorce - helpful guide & tips

Regardless of whose decision it was to divorce, the end of a marriage can bring about a rollercoaster of unexpected feelings of shame, self-doubt, fear, and insecurity. You might worry that you’ll never be happy […]

How can style boost your confidence during divorce

Jacynth Bassett, founder of The Bias Cut shares her tips on using style to boost your confidence during or post-divorce. As a mother going through a divorce, a top priority is to be a solid […]