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I just found out that my x's live in boyfriend took my daughter took to a Father/Daughter dance. This was done on a weekend that I do not have my children without my knowledge or consent. I found out from my daughter after the fact and subsequently got upset, leaving an awkward emotional situation the two of us. For context she is 9, and had no idea that this would hurt my feelings. I have no issue with the x's boyfriend trying to do something nice with my children to create a bond, but I felt this was truly over the line. Am I being selfish? I know I was intentionally left in the dark about this, and now I am outraged with the communication with my x getting derogatory. She doesn't get it and she never will, but I am not going to sit back and not let her know that this was disrespectful. That fact that this dude gets to see my own daughter every day, and thinks he then can steal special moments like that is pretty hard for me to swallow. Any thoughts or advice would be helpful.
Robert at 28.02.2023 18:50:11
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Should a Parent who feels let down punish the children?

I have two children who live 50/50 between two home. Ex moved out shortly after separation and moved out of the local area. Children remained being schooled in my local area where they have family and friends. Couple of years ago family Court decided on school choice in favour of them staying in the local area. Ex wasn't happy and stopped supporting kids with their extra curricular activities. Few months ago I applied to court for a CAO due to on going issues with the kids but plan was agreed so withdrew from court. But recently that plan has now been thrown out by Ex and kids have been told they will never get to go their activities when at ex's house. Kids are very upset about this and feel let down and even saying they don't want to stay at Ex house as much. What can I do as discussing this with Ex is impossible due to controlling and coercive behaviour?
Mr T at 08.01.2022 9:30:23
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My son is being left in the care of her new partners parents. Can this be done without consulting me?

My son is being left in the care of my ex partners new boyfriend's parents.. I'm not happy about this as I know nothing about them. Does she need my permission?
Andi at 15.07.2021 12:10:41
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I’m worried about telling my kids about our divorce

I’m worried about telling my children that we’re getting divorced, they are so little. I don’t know how to explain it to them?
unknown at 05.10.2017 8:03:04
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child maintenance – how do I workout what I should be paid?

How do I work out how much child maintenance I should be getting from my ex?
DWG at 05.01.2018 8:02:58
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She wants to take my son away after the divorce.

When my wife worked abroad, she met a man who eventually became her lover. Due to that, we broke up. She filed a divorce which will be granted soon. But that is not the problem here. It’s about her taking my son, Mike, away from me. I understand that when the parents got divorced, the kids should at least be at the mother’s jurisdiction. However, this is not how it goes here. She said they will be moving to a foreign country soon and she won’t tell me where exactly. My concern is, I have to know so that I can visit my son anytime I want. She did not seem to understand it that way. She literally wants me to cut off the tie with my son, which is not right. I would never agree to that. Can we not let our son decide whom he wants to stay with? Mike just turned 12 and old enough to decide on his own.
FatherGrant at 05.08.2018 8:02:10
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