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I have two children who live 50/50 between two home. Ex moved out shortly after separation and moved out of the local area. Children remained being schooled in my local area where they have family and friends. Couple of years ago family Court decided on school choice in favour of them staying in the local area. Ex wasn't happy and stopped supporting kids with their extra curricular activities. Few months ago I applied to court for a CAO due to on going issues with the kids but plan was agreed so withdrew from court. But recently that plan has now been thrown out by Ex and kids have been told they will never get to go their activities when at ex's house. Kids are very upset about this and feel let down and even saying they don't want to stay at Ex house as much. What can I do as discussing this with Ex is impossible due to controlling and coercive behaviour?
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Hi Mr. T, thanks for reaching out to amicable. I'm very sorry to hear about your situation, it sounds very painful. I would suggest reaching out to Dads Unlimited, as they have some fantastic resources to help you with this. I wish you the best of luck.
It's understandable that you are feeling frustrated and concerned about the situation with your children and their extra-curricular activities. However, it's important to remember that punishing your children for their father's actions is not an appropriate response.
Rather than punishing them, it's important to have open and honest conversations with your children about their feelings and experiences regarding the situation. It may also be helpful to involve a family therapist or mediator who can provide guidance and support in navigating this complex issue.
As for your concerns about discussing the issue with your ex, it's important to prioritize your children's well-being and seek out whatever resources are available to help ensure their needs are being met. This may include reaching out to a lawyer or other legal resources to explore your options for resolving the situation.
Above all, it's essential to approach this situation with empathy, compassion, and a focus on finding solutions that benefit your children and support their healthy emotional and psychological development.