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New partner and boundaries

Glen
06.02.2025 12:48:09

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My ex and I coparent 50/50 week on week off. We are amicable and have comfortably shared family occasions together since our divorce. I have a new partner and she is very uncomfortable with the circumstances. She doesn’t understand that I am prioritising my children anytime we do anything together. I have no interest in getting back together with my ex. My new partner thinks our dynamic is inappropriate and also disrespectful to her. Is she being reasonable?

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Tatiana from amicable
07.02.2025 10:21:48

Hi Glen,

Thank you for getting in touch with amicable.

We're happy to hear you've been able to co-parent your children with great success since your divorce. It's possible your new partner hasn't experienced or heard about co-parenting in this way before, and therefore feels uncertain. It might be especially hard to understand if they don't have children of their own. We have lots of resources on our website that explain the benefits of co-parenting and explore different approaches to special occasions. We also have an episode of The Divorce Podcast with general advice on introducing anew partner after divorce or separation. It might help to share and talk about these resources with your new partner, so you can discuss anything you feel uncomfortable about. Try to maintain an open dialogue and be patient with each other.

We wish you all the best,

Tatiana from amicable

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