How to talk to your children about divorce

In this episode, Kate is joined by parenting expert Oona Alexander to explore how parents can protect their children's wellbeing during divorce. They discuss what to say, how to listen and ways to limit the emotional impact on your family.

How to talk to your children about divorce

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How to support your children through divorce without passing on your pain

Oona shares practical tips for starting conversations with children about divorce and how they’re feeling. She and Kate discuss how to maintain the fine line between pushing children to express their feelings too much and not discussing them at all.

Oona also explains how to separate your own experience from your children’s and how not to project your feelings onto them. She gives invaluable advice on how to deal with your child’s challenging behaviours, navigate blame and prepare for conversations about the inevitable changes ahead.

What we cover:

• How to start difficult conversations about divorce with your children
• Why balance matters when encouraging children to express feelings
• Separating your own experience from your children’s
• Handling challenging behaviours and blame
• Preparing children for changes ahead

About Oona Alexander: parenting expert and divorced mum

Oona is a leading UK parenting expert and co-parenting specialist - as well as a divorced mum.

She helps divorcing parents move rapidly from despair and guilt to positivity and confidence, so they can create the best possible outcomes for their children.

With Oona, you discover the practical, loving steps to limit ‘damage’ to your children and help them be secure, happy and well-behaved before, during and after divorce.

Get in touch with Oona

You can get in touch with Oona on her website. There you can also find helpful divorce resources and book a consultation.

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