We’ve decided to get a divorce but none of the reasons for divorce on the form are relevant to us. We got married a year and a half ago but have been a couple for five years in total. No ones cheated, or left each other, we haven’t been apart for two years or five years and neither of us have done anything horrible to each other so I don’t think we can use the behaviour one? We’ve just fallen out of love and drifted apart so I don’t really know what to do…? Please help
Hi chloec – unfortunately in England and Wales, we don’t yet have ‘no-fault divorce’ which means a lot of couples are left in the same situation as you and your ex. Many couples use the reason of ‘unreasonable behaviour’, the reality is our legal system sets couples up to enter a blame game which, I know, doesn’t feel fair if you’ve just drifted apart. If you’ve decided to divorce, you will both need to be pragmatic in your approach. One person will have to be ‘responsible’ for the behaviour that has led the marriage breakdown. Some people choose to write these examples about themselves to reduce acrimony. The examples of the behaviour don’t have to be ‘horrible’. There are many examples people can use to describe to the judge why their marriage has broken down past the point of repair. Here are some examples couples have used:
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