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I wasn’t expecting the friendship side of separation to hit this hard.
Since we split, a few of our mutual friends have pretty much disappeared from my life. No arguments, no big fallouts, just… silence. They still see my ex, go to things he’s at, message him, all that. But with me it’s like I dropped off the map.
I know no one is “obliged” to pick me, and I’m not trying to make people choose sides, but it stings. Some of these friends were at our wedding. Some I thought were mine as much as his. I keep wondering if I did something wrong or if people just don’t know what to say.
Has anyone else had this happen? Do friendships settle again eventually, or do you just have to accept that some people drift off after a breakup?
Would really appreciate hearing how others dealt with the weird social fallout.