Untie the knot amicably | How to divorce without lawyers

Originally published on 30th November 2018 at 12:11 PM
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Can you get a divorce without a lawyer?

The short answer is yes. Many people are not aware that you can divorce without instructing lawyers or solicitors. There are pros and cons of doing this and it's important to be aware of all the options available to you before you commit either way.

We’ve written a helpful guide on six ways of getting a divorce without using lawyers. This guide should help you understand the pros and cons of divorcing or ending your civil partnership without the help of a lawyer or solicitor. It will also lay out some other options that are available to you.

## When should you use a solicitor? If your ex is abusive or threatening then a lawyer can make applications alongside your divorce to keep you or your children safe. It’s dangerous to try and negotiate with someone who may harm you. If you suspect your ex is getting rid of assets, hiding them or transferring things into other people’s names then a lawyer can help you get a freezing order to stop this. If you have complicated assets and are unsure of your legal position, a lawyer (or a divorce law specialist) can help you understand your options. However, it doesn't mean you have to use them throughout the whole process. Feel free to [call us](https://amicable.io/book-divorce-advice-call) if you aren't sure whether your assets are complicated. A solicitor will fight your corner and you may get a ‘better deal’. However, you should bear in mind that if your ex has a solicitor too – they will be doing the same thing. If your ex won’t cooperate or negotiate then you will need to court to make decisions on your behalf and a solicitor is best placed to do that.

The potential downsides of using a divorce lawyer/solicitor to divorce

1. It’s expensive:

If you both engage a lawyer you will have hefty bills to contend with at the end of the process – that’s money you could be spending on your family. Consider whether you are on ok-enough terms to use an alternative service. The average cost of asking a solicitor to sort out your finances, for example, is £8,000 (each). If you would like to learn more about how much divorce costs and how to keep the costs of divorce low you read our guide on the cost of divorce, including for all the methods we discuss below.

2. It can be acrimonious:

It could make communication between you difficult. Lawyers send letters and emails that are very factual and are not written with your spouses' feelings in mind. This can cause ructions between you and lead to acrimony.

3. It may negatively impact co-parenting:

It can make co-parenting difficult post-divorce. Involving a lawyer can create a dependence that leaves you unable to talk easily once the divorce is over. If you use your lawyer to sort out issues that arise then at the end of the process when the lawyers step away you can be left struggling to sort things out yourselves and co-parent.

4. It’s not necessary:

Most of a divorce is clerical and administrative. There is very little legal advice involved in a straightforward divorce. A lot of information can be gathered for free and there are lots of divorce-diagnostic who will do the paperwork for you. You don’t need to pay an expensive lawyer to do standard paperwork.

5. It's slow:

A lawyer has to write letters and emails (which they will charge for) and then wait for a reply. This can add considerable time to the process. Talking to each other directly will speed things up and cut out misunderstandings.

Six ways to divorce without lawyers or solicitors guide:

If you've read the above pros and cons of divorce without solicitors, and you’ve decided that you want to proceed with your divorce without a solicitor/lawyer, here are some alternative options:

1. DIY divorce

If you both feel comfortable with the legal process, including submitting out legal forms, then you can do the divorce yourself using the government website. The cost of a DIY option is the government court fee of £593. Before you pay this, check whether you're entitled to help with fees by clicking here. To end your financial relationship, you'll need to get a consent order, as the divorce paperwork doesn't cover this part.

If you would like more information on splitting your finances in your divorce read our guide on consent orders.

2. Online divorce

There are various online divorce services, including amicable, who can do your divorce, sort out your finances and manage the legal paperwork without instructing a solicitor. These are usually fixed fee and offer different levels of service depending on how much of the work you are prepared to do yourself. For example, our fees at amicable can range between £300 for a very simple divorce to £2850 for a divorce that needs more work (financial/child arrangements etc with help from a Divorce Specialist).

You can visit our divorce diagnostic tool to get an idea of costs or to see which service may be best for you.

Tip 1: If it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Be wary of divorce-diagnostic that offer low-cost divorces that are completed in a few months.

3. Mediation

If you're finding it difficult to agree you can use the traditional combination of mediation to help you come to your arrangements and then either lawyers or an online service to draw up the legal paperwork. Mediation will facilitate an agreement and works best when you are equally matched in terms of your financial power within the relationship.

4. amicable

amicable offers a variety of divorce-diagnostic from completing your divorce paperwork to an end-to-end service for couples who want to divorce and sort out their finances and children arrangements without lawyers. We can help you negotiate a fair financial split and make a parenting plan demonstrating how you will co-parent if you have children together. Unlike mediators, all our packages include drawing up all your legal paperwork and liaising with the courts. amicable can help you with all of it, or just some of it. You can view amicable as the in-between approach – combining the logic behind mediation and the legal admin that comes with using a traditional solicitor or lawyer.

### 5 key differences between amicable & divorce lawyers
### amicable
1. Work with couples 2. Fixed fees, with the option to pay monthly 3. Ranges from £300 for a Simple Divorce. To the most expensive costing approximately £10200 per couple 4. Focused on goals for the future (important for co-parents) 5. A Divorce Specialist works with both to navigate the logistical, legal and emotional side of separating
### Divorce lawyers
1. Work with individuals 2. Usually charge by a hour, or minute 3. £8,000 per person - the average cost for a divorce and financial settlement in the UK 4. Focused on getting one person their best case scenario 5. One lawyer per person whose job is to protect you and your individual entitlement

Tip 2: If you and your ex want to remain on good terms, discuss the various ways to divorce together, and choose an option that works for you and your family.

5. Arbitration

If you are struggling to agree on either your whole divorce or a single issue within it, an arbitrator will settle your case out of court and make a legally binding decision on your behalf after reviewing the details of your case. The decision they come to is legally binding and you cannot appeal or disregard it once you have agreed to the arbitration process. It is like having a private court hearing, but cheaper and quicker than going through the court system. It is a good alternative to starting court proceedings.

6. Court

The court is the right option for you if there are danger signs like hiding assets or abuse. It’s best to avoid court if you can and keep control of the process by using an alternative service. However – sometimes you have no choice. Going to court should be, where possible, avoided as it is usually the most expensive, long-winded and traumatic way to divorce.

If you would like some support in figuring out the best way forward for you and your family, then please get in touch for a free 15-minute advice call with one of our amicable experts.

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In short, yes. However, depending on your circumstances may alter which option you should choose. There are situations where a solicitor or lawyer may be the most appropriate option. You can get a divorce using the government website, or through an online service like amicable. amicable handle all the divorce paperwork so you can focus on what really matters to you. If done properly, yes. It must go through the courts and you must submit and receive your final order (formerly called the decree absolute) in order for it to be considered legal. If you want to split your finances, then you should use a service such as amicable to help with the consent order. If you don’t have any money, but want a divorce, you can use the government website and apply for the [help with fees scheme](https://www.gov.uk/get-help-with-court-fees).

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