Divorce ranks as one of the most stressful things you can go through in life, with emotions running high and often lots of issues to work through and decisions to make, it is important to have the right support and advice.
Many people have turned to divorce coaches and divorce coaching to help them handle what is a highly emotional and uncertain journey for many families.
What is a divorce coach?
The term divorce coach or divorce coaching originally emerged in America and is a relatively new title that started being used by professionals in the 2000s.
A separate entity to a divorce lawyer, divorce coaches come from various backgrounds, in law, financial mediation, psychotherapy and a wide variety of others. In the past few years, individuals and companies (including amicable) in the UK have started offering similar solutions for people looking to get through the divorce process in one piece.
The role of a divorce coach is to help couples to complete the divorce process with minimal fuss, expense and acrimony. amicable's divorce coaches are goal-orientated, offering support and guidance through the emotional and legal journey of separating.
Divorce coaches can help from the pre-divorce stage where all the important preparation is made, through to the actual divorce itself and out to the post-divorce stage to help you move forward with your life.
Why use an online divorce coach?
Most people don't get divorced very often so it's no suprise that many of us don't know where to start or what to do.
In a similar way to a life coach, an online divorce coach will help you to successfully navigate the journey, by focusing on the future and not getting tied up with the past. A divorce coach is savvy to how the process works and is there to walk and talk you through the process, as well as help you to avoid common and hidden mistakes.
They'll help you to prioritise the right things so you can save money, time and acrimony.
Most couples will find the prospect of sitting in a room with their ex difficult. Online divorce coaching eliminates the need for this and the need to traipse to offices. Online divorce coaching allows couples to log in from wherever is convenient for them and get remote support over the phone or on video calls.
This is especially important right now as we all adjust to the global changes COVID-19 is inflicting on people everywhere.
How can a divorce coach help me?
One of the great things about divorce coaching and why it is so effective is that it is tailor-made to suit the needs of each individual circumstance and supports both processes (the emotional and legal process).
Every couple is different. You may not need the same support as other couples going through the divorce process, before, during and after the divorce has been finalised. A divorce coach is there to offer advice and to support your unique set up to help you come out the other end as amicable as possible.
During the pre-divorce stage of the process, there are various ways a coach can help you. Such as:
- Answering any questions you have about the process
- Debunking any myths around divorce and separation (there are lots!)
- Setting goals for the future and defining a realistic timeframe to work towards
- Helping you and your ex get on the same page. This is achieved by a joint coaching session that allows you to hear the same information, from the same professional
During the Divorce Process
Divorce can quickly spiral out of control and you may find it overwhelming and hard to deal with unless you have someone to guide and support you. A Divorce Coach can help you during the actual divorce proceedings in a variety of ways, therefore, including:
- Helping you to complete the necessary legal documents for the divorce and consent order
- Help you to negotiate a fair financial split
- Support creating a parenting plan that will create an environment that your kids can thrive in
- Provide options so you have the information you need to make the right decisions
- Help you to communicate with your ex-husband or wife rationally and effectively
- Assist you in establishing fair and reasonable goals for your divorce settlement
- Connecting you with relevant professionals such as property lawyers, tax specialists etc
It is not just before and during your divorce that a divorce coach can help you. They can offer support and guidance in a number of ways even after the divorce has been finalised. This includes:
- On-going support with transitioning from parents to co-parents
- Providing you with the post-divorce admin that will need to be sorted
- Introducing you to relevant professional, for example, to re-do your will
- Offer their own experiences of divorce, as many, not all, may have been through the process themselves personally.
As we hope you can see, if you are starting the divorce journey, rather than tackling it on your own, the help and guidance of a divorce coach could be invaluable.
For more information on amicable's divorce coaching sessions, please click here. Or book a free 15-minute call with one of amicable's divorce coaches to find out if the divorce coaching approach would work for you and your ex.