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Divorce basics – what you need to know about getting divorced
How do I separate and what’s involved in a divorce/dissolution? Our divorce basics guide tells you various things you should know about divorce.
There are three main things you should consider when getting a divorce or dissolving your civil partnership. You will need to; make arrangements for your children (if you have children), agree on what will happen with your finances, and finally, you will need to submit the legal paperwork.
Divorce - what you need to know
1. Make arrangements for your children
The first and most important thing to agree on is where your children will live, how they will see both of you, who will pay for what and how you will raise them. This is called a parenting plan.
2. Make arrangements for your finances
Next, agree on what will happen to your home, where you will live in future and also what money, assets and debts you have to divide. This is called a consent order or financial disclosure.
3. Submit the legal paperwork
Submit your divorce (or dissolution) application, apply for a conditional order (formerly known as decree nisi), submit a consent order (this is optional but strongly recommended) and finally apply for a final order (formerly known as decree absolute). If you want to make your financial agreements legally binding you will also need to submit a consent order with your divorce paperwork.
If you want to formalise your agreements prior to your divorce, you can have a separation agreement that outlines what you plan on splitting once you have separated.
Divorce basics guide: what you need to know
1. Make arrangements for your children
Agreeing on childcare arrangements is the most important thing you can do, as it creates stability and a solid base for your children to adjust to changes. By doing this first, you ensure your financial decisions fit with what is best for your kids.
These are the divorce basics for making arrangements for your children:
2. Agree on arrangements for your finances
Another essential thing you should know about divorce is what you plan on doing with your finances. You need to make a list of all your assets and debts to decide how to split them (‘financial disclosure’). Even if you are doing things informally, legally you need to ensure your disclosure is an accurate reflection of everything you own or owe. Inaccuracies can lead to your settlement being overturned, sometimes years later.
These are the ‘finances’ divorce basics:
For further guidance read our consent and financial orders guide.
3. Submit your legal paperwork
The legal process can take a long time and this will depend on whether you are planning on applying for a consent order (also known as a financial order). If you aren’t, then your divorce will take a minimum of six months to be finalised, due to the reflection period built into the No-fault system (as of the 6th of April 2022). Divorces issued before no-fault will take around three to six months to complete.
If you are planning on splitting your finances and formalising your financial arrangements via a consent order, some people choose to start submitting before finalising their agreements. You can do this to keep the process moving, but it is not advised that you submit for the final order (formerly the decree absolute) until you have reached a settlement that has been sealed by a judge.
These are the divorce basics for submitting paperwork at court:
Step one
Choose whether you are making a joint or sole application for divorce and complete the relevant paperwork. This can be done online or via the post.
Step two
If you made a sole application, the court sends the issued divorce application to your partner – along with an ‘acknowledgement of service form’, for them to return. If they don’t, the process may be delayed.
Step three
*There is a mandatory 20-week reflection period built into the process, starting from the date the divorce application is issued.
Once the 20-week reflection period has elapsed (and if your ex has returned the paperwork for sole journeys), you can submit your conditional order application. This was formerly known as the decree nisi application for divorces issued before the introduction of no-fault divorce on the 6th of April 2022. A judge then reviews this application and confirms whether or not your marriage has broken down ‘irretrievably’. If accepted the date the conditional order (formerly decree nisi) is pronounced will be confirmed. You will not have to attend court unless there is an issue over costs.
Step four
If you are choosing a consent order to make agreements about finances/children legally binding you must complete the relevant legal forms. You can get help with this process by using a legal service like amicable.
If the judge has questions about your settlement you may be asked to attend a hearing.
Step five
After six weeks and one day, you can apply for your final order (formerly the decree absolute), however, it is advised that you should wait until your consent order has been sealed by the judge and the transfer period of 28 days has passed (if you have a pension sharing order).
You are legally divorced once you receive your final order (fromerly decree absolute certificate).
Where can you find help?
amicable can help with some, or all of the above steps, including assisting with the divorce paperwork, and helping you to sort out your finances and your childcare arrangements. We keep the family unit as the central consideration ensuring you can build a new life post-separation
FAQs
What are the five stages of divorce?
In terms of the divorce paperwork, there are five key stages: the divorce application, the acknowledgement of service, a conditional order, a consent order (optional), and the final order.
How do you get a divorce without a solicitor UK?
You can get a divorce using the government website, or through an online service like amicable. amicable handle all the divorce paperwork so you can focus on what really matters to you. Read more about getting divorced without using divorce lawyers here.
How much does a divorce cost in the UK in 2021?
The cost of divorce varies, depending on the method used. If you are having a DIY divorce, the most it will cost is the initial £593 court fee (unless you are exempt). We have written a helpful guide on the cost of divorce dissolution and how to keep the costs down.
What do I need to know before divorce?
You will need to sort out three things if you plan on getting divorced: your childcare arrangements, any financial arrangements and the legal paperwork.
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Comments (15)
Can I get a divorce even though we have been married less than two years. ??
We are in our 60's, no minor kids. He wants to give me house and keep everything else: Retirement accnt, military retirement and SS. I would like to file on him now. He left home in June 2019 and living in Clarkson, WA. Not sure how to get ball rolling. Thanks for your help.
No children in my devoice only a house which we’re putting on the market now the ex is been difficult dictating everything I hope my devoice can go through smoothly
Divorced but need help with clean break
I have been separated from my wife for over ten years She committed adultery Do I still need to go through the hole court thing? Is there a fast track way in cases like mine?
Hi Peter, unfortunately, there is no way to fast track cases like this, and as the adultery was discovered over a year ago, you can't use this as your grounds for divorce. However, you could use five years separation, give us a ring and we'll be able to give you some more assistance.
We have 2 kids . He has committed adultery numerous times. He has never worked just because he is just lazy. His only job in the house was our youngest childcare but that too he is not doing I’m constantly looking for childcare whilst working full time . He has a habit of not coming home for days and then suddenly just turns up to act like a normal parent again. Few days go by and he disappears again. I struggle with all the bills and he sleeps like a baby. How do I divorce him and make him move out our house permanently considering he has left me over 6-7 times for months and then just comes back. When I’ve asked him to move out he totally refuses and I’m afraid that is going to be the most difficult part. The house is in my name and I pay the mortgage. Please help me I’m so unhappy.
Hi Sandra, I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. You can use 'adultery' as your fact to support that your marriage has broken down, however, he will have to admit to this when he responds to the petition. Failing this, you can use unreasonable behaviour. No-fault divorce is being implemented in April 2022, so you can also wait for this if you wish, and this will mean that you won't need to use a fact to support that the marriage has broken down. It will also be difficult for people to contest divorces. In terms of your finances, if you want to formalise any financial agreements you come to you will need to either submit a consent order (which he would have to agree to and sign) or apply to the court for a financial order, where you ask the court to decide upon your finances. The second option can be costly. Give us a ring to discuss your personal situation in more detail.
I have been married for 2 years ,hes been gone for over 7months now. We don't have children together and our home is private rented which I had before we met. I still live in house and he moved out. I want a divorce due to alot of factors. Abuse,control and adultery which he won't admit to. Even though I've found out about various children he has fathered that I was unaware of. I have some debt that is due to him like credit cards and household bills. I would like to hold him accountable for these. Can you help me start the process and what my options are. Kind regards Beth.
Thank you for this information
I need some advice on divorcing my husband. Together almost 16 years married 14 in September He cheated, lied, I moved into a refuge, he’s accepted no fault and has blamed me and my mental health and physical health also. He’s taken everything from me. I’m scared how to even move on. Thanks for your time.
If we both want a divorce and we have no ties and nothing to divide do it still need to go to court. We are looking for the cheapest way. Been separated for a few years already
Hi Michelle, Thank you for your comment. You don't need to go to court at any point in the process. You can complete the divorce process entirely online. If you're looking to initiate the divorce yourself, you can do it through the government website here: https://www.gov.uk/divorce/file-for-divorce If you would like help, or some initial guidance on the divorce process, you can book a free 15-minute consultation here: https://calendly.com/d/crj-93m-rp4 Best wishes, Oscar from amicable
Hello. I have a marriage that was celebrated civilly in 2014 in the city of Bristol that I want to annul. I am Spanish and Brazilian. I married him so I could legalize his situation in the United Kingdom and so he could work. Before marriage we both lived together as a couple for two years in Spain, but when I lost my job I decided to move to Bristol and he came with me. We lived for five years in Bristol and in 2018 I had to return to Spain to take care of my father who was sick and needed my care. He stayed in the apartment we had rented, we maintained telephone contact, until one day he blocked me and since then I haven't heard anything about my husband, I lost track of him and he never tried to contact me again either. It's been a year since I returned to the United Kingdom, but this time to London. I have visited Bristol to see if I could get information about my husband, but have had no success. Could you please give me information on how I should proceed to annul the marriage? Thank you so much.
Hi Rosa, there are several services like https://iflg.uk.com/ and https://www.findukpeople.com/ that can help locate your ex-partner. And this page https://www.gov.uk/how-to-annul-marriage provides more helpful information on annulments.