If you’ve received divorce papers through the post and you’re not sure what to do next, read the information and advice below:
If you would like the divorce to proceed then you simply need to answer the questions, sign the document and send it back to the court address on the bottom of the form.
This scenario often occurs if your ex has used ‘unreasonable behaviour’ as the reason for the divorce.
We understand that reading someone else’s perspective on what went wrong in a marriage isn’t pleasant. There are always two sides to everything. However, if you are content for the divorce to proceed then you should:
This will ensure that you have on record that you do not admit to any of the alleged behaviour, whilst ensuring your divorce can proceed through the court to the next stage.
Contesting an unreasonable behaviour petition is very seldom successful and will cost you money as you will need to pay to file your objection. The court is NOT making a finding of fact about the behaviour listed. It is one person’s perspective. It’s worth understanding some facts about a behaviour petition
Don’t just ignore the divorce petition. If the court believes you have received the papers the divorce will continue without your Acknowledgement of Service Form. The court may also decide to hand deliver the papers to you, and you may well be charged for this.
In reality, relationships are such that if one person is sure it’s over then you can’t force them to remain married to you. It’s always helpful to get some emotional support, either as a couple or as an individual to help you come to terms with the situation. Relate is a good place to start, or search for local or online therapists. It’s always better to try and work through raw emotions than react hastily or in anger… which could get you nowhere and leave you of pocket.
If you are sure you want to contest the divorce (and that you have a legitimate reason to do so), fill in the acknowledgement of service form, stating you wish to defend the divorce. YOU MUST DO THIS WITHIN 8 DAYS of receiving the petition. The court will send your ex copies of the papers saying you wish to defend the divorce. Once you’ve sent the papers to the court, you must fill in the form D8B and say why you wish to defend the divorce.
Disagreeing with your ex behaviour statement they made in the petition, or not wanting to be divorced are not normally a good enough reason to defend the case. You must complete this form within 21 days and pay a fee of £245.
For more help, get in touch with one of our amicable experts by booking a free 15-minute call here.