Five questions to ask yourself before you separate or divorce

Being in the right emotional place is fundamental to having an amicable divorce. Find out if you’re ready to separate with our five simple, ‘ready for change’ questions.

Perhaps the idea of ever being ready to divorce feels remote. Many people end up dealing with relationship breakdown by shutting off their feelings. Research shows that there are a number of emotional stages people go through when a relationship ends.  Knowing about these and understanding the emotional journey is the key to having an amicable divorce where you are able to co-parent your children during and after your separation. Being ‘ready’ can help you get into the right mindset and enable you and your partner to reach fairer agreements, reduce the time it takes to get your divorce finalised and save you money.

Or you can test your readiness by answering the following questions:

1. Are you sure it’s over?
2. Have you dealt with your own guilt about ending the relationship?
3. Have you had an opportunity to speak to a counsellor, confide in a friend, or express your feelings in some other way?
4. Can you imagine day-to-day life without your partner?
5. Can you see and accept there will be changes to your finances, lifestyle or traditions?

If you’re not ready to move on, contact us for support to get emotionally prepared. If you’re ready, go to the goals section of the amicable app and get started.

If you have any questions or would like some support, please book a free 15-minute call with one of our experts here.