How to navigate sibling issues as a single parent

Tip 1: Role-model how you want your children to behave

Your children will copy your behaviour. Try and be the best role model you can be, and this includes showing them how to resolve conflict with others in a respectful and calm way. Sibling rivalry is natural, but by teaching your children conflict-resolution skills, such as communication, you will avoid fights escalating. It can be doubly hard when you're the only parent to police bad behaviour, but stay focused, praise all forms of good behaviour, and celebrate small victories.

Tip 2: Set expectations

If you’re the only parent caring for your children, a benefit is that you have the opportunity to establish a clear set of expectations and rules. Having no other voices to undermine or cloud things really helps, so take advantage of this.

Tip 3: Encourage your children to be individuals

Help your children to have their own hobbies, activities and friends. This will help avoid jealousy or comparison with each other.

Tip 4: Create the conditions to make great memories

This doesn’t have to be particularly time-consuming or expensive, but you can help your children bond as siblings through family activities, day trips and family meals. Setting time aside to cook, bake or make together can be a great way of creating memories. Single parenthood can feel like an uphill struggle, but remember to enjoy the journey, as you won’t get these small moments back.

Tip 5: If you’re not sure, ask for help

Whether it’s from a friend or family member, ask for help when you’re struggling.

Many parents in the Frolo community find it useful to talk about different issues relating to raising children and share their tips and advice. At the very least, it helps you to realise that you’re not alone.