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In English and Welsh law adultery can be used as a ‘fact’ for the Grounds for Divorce if you want to prove that your marriage has broken down. There are five facts or reasons to ‘rely’ on to prove your marriage has broken down past the point of recovery. The five facts are:
This blog will cover what you need to know about using adultery for the reason to divorce.
The easiest way to divorce using adultery is for the person who has committed the adultery to admit to it. It can be hard to gather evidence and prove adultery if your ex isn’t prepared to admit it.You can attempt to prove adultery through text messages, hotel room bookings, witnesses etc. However, this route is not advised as it’s likely to lead to further tension between you. If the person who has committed the adultery doesn’t accept that they have been unfaithful, then the other option is to use unreasonable behaviour grounds.
You can’t start the divorce proceedings if you are the person who has committed the adultery, it will fall to the other person. This may not seem fair as it leaves your ex to start the process. If your marriage has broken down, and your ex won’t start proceeding then use Unreasonable Behaviour.
There is the option to name the person your ex has had an affair with on the divorce petition. Whilst it’s tempting to do that when things are raw, it doesn;t achieve much and gives an additional opportunity for your ex or the person named to object and hold things up. A counsellor can help you process the raw emotional feelings that accompany a betrayal.