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Fight or give in?

03.02.2023 7:58:14


I am currently going through divorce we are trying to settle before the court date, I had to leave the marital home due to abuse and left with minimal items, all four children are 50/50 between both houses, the house is to be split 50/50, when I left I was given £15k this was used to furnish the house and secure a rental property.
My ex took out a mortgage holiday and made £3k on the family car and kept all that money I asked for only £7.5k to be taken from my share of the equity and not the full £15k is that fair and correct?
I also do not pay towards the mortgage but I never did anyway I stayed home with the children when I moved out and started working that money was used to house my kids and myself.

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Holly from amicable
07.02.2023 11:34:11

Hi Stacey,

Thank you for reaching out to amicable and I am very sorry to hear about your situation.

As we're a couples service, and only work with couples, we can't normally help with this sort of situation, as it's not usually safe or possible. We also can't give you independent legal advice on this, however, I thought the following information may be useful for you.

The safety of you and your children is the most important consideration. You can reach out to Refuge – The National Domestic Violence Charity. There is also a helpline run in conjunction with Women’s Aid. You can call and speak to someone who can provide advice. Contact them on 0808 2000 247.

You are entitled to legal aid if you are being domestically abused. The GOV.UK website explains where to get help and what situations qualify for legal aid. You can search for a solicitor who is legal aid registered and they will explain how they can help you can access legal support to help you with all aspects of your divorce including over your finances. Search the Resolution database or Court Nav for assistance in obtaining legal aid advice specialising in Domestic Abuse.

To hear more options available to you, you can book a free 15-minute advice call.

I hope this helps.

Best wishes, Holly


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