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I thought once the divorce was final and the consent order was approved I’d feel a sense of relief, but honestly I just feel a bit stuck.
The order says the house needs to be sold and the equity split, there’s a pension share to sort, and we’re meant to close joint accounts and finish tying everything up. On paper it all sounds straightforward, but in real life I’m not sure where to start or what order things are meant to happen in.
Do I contact the pension provider now or wait until the house sale is underway? How long do pension shares actually take? And what happens if my ex starts dragging their feet now everything is technically “done”?
I didn’t expect this stage to feel so overwhelming and I’m worried about messing something up or missing a step. Part of me feels like I should be able to handle it myself, but another part wonders if this is the point where you actually need some proper guidance.
Has anyone else found this part harder than expected? Would really appreciate hearing what helped you get through it.