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We’re going through what most people would call an amicable split. There’s no fighting, no resentment, no big betrayal. We still talk kindly, still check in on each other, still care about each other. It’s probably the healthiest our communication has been in years.
And yet… I feel heartbroken in a way I didn’t expect.
I think I assumed that doing it kindly would soften the blow, but instead it feels like the grief hits harder because the love is still there, just in the wrong shape. We both know we’re not right for each other anymore, but there’s still this deep care that makes the whole thing ache.
It’s confusing too. How do you mourn something while still having warmth between you? How do you find the line between being supportive and holding on too much? It’s like trying to walk forward but looking back every few steps.
Has anyone else been through this kind of “painful but kind” separation? Does it get less confusing with time?
Would really appreciate hearing how others have navigated this emotional grey zone.