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So I'm a dad and husband with combined ASD and ADHD (AuDHD). Essentially, I'm late diagnosed but it's years too late as the damage of unchecked behaviours and thinking I can change for my wife has lead to disappointment and broken promises, odd behaviours, hiding truths, forgetfulness, emotional disregulatuon etc. And all this whilst also trying to bring up 2 awesome children.
My wife is set on divorce and wants out, she has stated her position saying if she knew I was AuDHD to begin with we wouldn't be together. I dont want a divorce, I still love her but I fear my understanding of my limitations is too late. Has anyone else been through anything like this and can suggest either a route to help or at least make things better on my kids?