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Hi
My wife has applied for divorce. Things have been tough for a while. Its not what I wanted, but I accept it.
I was diagnosed with Relative Energy Deficiency in Sport recently, and have developed (but recovered from) disordered eating. I've sought support at every level and made changes. I competed some therapy, and recognised i had felt undermined and inadequate in our relationship for years. I shared this with my wife as restoratively as I could, but she accused me on denial and deflecting and a week later sought a divorce.
I have cared the children their whole life, including more of the school runs and bedtimes etc.
Her reason for divorce is that I'm "ill" based entirely on her feelings which she describes as "her data" without any medical evidence. I am therefore now, suddenly, unsafe to be around the children for a prolonged length of time and is seeking to entirely rework our children's established routines because she does not "feel" I am fit to be a parent.
I have sought support for my recovery, and have medical evidence (blood test results) that show I am not unwell. She regularly leaves me in their care, whilst she works and to see friends/have social occasions.
I feel like I'm going mad. Is this strong rationale to separate me from my children? She has spoken with her Solicitors and feels confident she will get her desired outcome, consigning to essentially being a weekend dad. I feel so confused.
I would love an honest, objective perspective as to whether she is entitled to seek this based on apparently nothing more than her self-diagnosis of my health please. Thank you all x