How do you decide who keeps what? Feeling a bit lost

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VintageLover
11.12.2025 9:16:46

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I’m trying to sort the financial side of my divorce and I honestly don’t know what’s “normal”.

We’ve got a house with some equity, a joint savings pot, and his pension is quite a bit bigger than mine because I worked part-time for years when the kids were small. He’s saying we should each just keep what’s in our own name, plus split the equity from the house.

I’m not sure if that’s actually fair, considering he could build up a pension while I couldn’t. But at the same time, I don’t want things to turn into a massive fight.

Did anyone else deal with this kind of imbalance? How did you decide what felt fair without it getting messy?

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