He’s refusing to separate

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Moon landing
03.04.2026 22:28:07

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Hi all, I’ve been with my partner 10yrs, joint mortgage and child that’ll start primary school in Sept. We live in London and for a while now discussed/looked at moving back to his home area of Oxford.
Our relationship is over, I’ve tried so many times with him but I feel it’s actually making me unwell now so want to leave. I feel HUGE guilt for my little one but I can’t carry on like this.
I told him last night and he said it’s not happening. I told him we need to sell the house and move to Oxford seperatly so little one can start school. He said no.
What do I do?! I suggested mediation but he refuses to accept it’s over. I cry every night in bed whilst he sits down stairs.
He’s in a lot of debt and I think he just wants me for the “lifestyle”. There’s no way he loves me.
If it goes to court to sell the house I just don’t want them to start arranging child care. I’m so scared but I can’t take this anymore.
Thank you xx

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