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I just need to put this somewhere and maybe hear from people who understand because I’m feeling really all over the place.
I left my husband earlier this year after being unhappy for a long time. Our marriage had a lot of toxic patterns, and since splitting, it’s been a mix of relief and exhaustion. We have a 12-year-old daughter, who mostly lives with me, but still has a room and her things at the old house.
The difficult bit is that he has a new girlfriend, and she’s going to be staying at our old house this weekend. He asked me to let him know if our daughter needs anything from there so she can be around. I don’t love him anymore, but I’m feeling sad, anxious, and… honestly jealous, even though I know I shouldn’t be comparing myself.
I think part of it is feeling protective of my daughter and worried about another “mum figure” entering her life. Part of it is also the old home itself - it’s full of memories, and imagining someone else there makes me ache. On top of that, he seems more confident and put together than he ever did with me while we were together, and that just stings.
Am I being ridiculous for feeling like this? Is it normal to be upset about your ex’s new partner being in the house you shared? Would really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar.