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Been separated about 4 months now. Got two kids, 8 and 10. They’re with me every other week, rest with their mum. On paper it’s all amicable, but honestly it’s hard.
Even small things like school trips, sports stuff, homework, feels like a fight to get sorted. I try to keep the same routines – bedtime, homework, screen time – but sometimes I bend just to avoid arguments. Feels like they notice and push boundaries more.
Also feel a bit on the outside with some decisions, like I’m not really in control of stuff that affects them. Weekends are nonstop with meals, school stuff, activities and trying to coordinate with their mum. Exhausting.
Dads here, how did you get your footing? How do you stay consistent and confident without it turning into a fight every time you speak to your ex? Any tips at all would be good.