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Hi all,
I thought I’d post because I’m a bit further down the road than some here but still finding my feet.
My divorce was finalised about 6 months ago after almost 20 years married. We have two children (14 and 17) who live mainly with their mum but stay with me every other weekend and one night in the week. The practical side is mostly settled now. The house was sold, we both moved, finances sorted etc. All done on paper.
But emotionally it still feels a bit strange. Some days I feel quite positive and even relieved that the tension of the last few years is gone.. Other days it hits me out of nowhere that this is my life now - smaller house, cooking for one most nights, and the quietness when the kids aren’t around.
I wouldn’t say I regret the divorce, the relationship had run its course and we wereboth pretty unhappy by the end. but I think I underestimated how long it would take to adjust to my new normal.
Weekends when the kids are here are great but when they go back to their mum’s at the end of the weeekend the house suddenly feels very quiet. I’m still figuring out what to do with that time, Ive tried a few things to get out of the rut. Joined a gym, started seeing friends a bit more, even took a short solo trip which I never would have done before. Some of it helps but I still feel like I’m at a in between stage where the old life is gone and the new one hasnt really started
If there's anyone here who is a bit further down the line, when did things start feeling more normal for you? Did anything help you move on easier?
Thanks