Financial abuse and separation or divorce

Originally published on 29th March 2023 at 12:05 PM
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There are more and more conversations taking place around financial abuse, and each year we see greater changes in this area. Slowly, but surely.

But do people truly understand the life-changing impact financial abuse has on individuals who experience it?

"Financial abuse is a form of domestic abuse, whereby the abuser restricts, exploits or sabotages their partner’s financial resources."

Now, let’s be clear here. When I say partner, this can mean current partner, ex-partner, family member or friend. Quite frankly, financial abuse can take place in any relationship, at any time.

When care turns into control

How does it happen? Well, you won’t be surprised to hear that it’s all about control. An abuser uses their powers of coercion to gain control over their partner, which can involve the victim/survivor becoming isolated and deprived of what they need. With their finances, or freedoms, restricted or removed, the victim/survivor is left with very little choice but to stay.

In many cases of separation and divorce, it does not stop there. The abuser’s aim is to reduce their partner to the point of total deprivation and desperation, meaning that it’s incredibly difficult for them to rebuild their lives after the relationship is over.

Economic abuse ’, specifically, is now defined in the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 and is a criminal offence . Economic abuse includes financial abuse plus the control of other resources that we all need to thrive. Such resources can include access to food, housing, technology (to work), transport, personal hygiene products and clothing.

So how many people does this impact?

Well, we know that:

  • 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men have experienced financial abuse. (FCA)
  • 8.7 million people report experiencing economic abuse. (Refuge)
  • 1.6 million people saw this begin as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic. (Refuge)

The numbers are shocking, and I suspect, no way near high enough, as I know 3 people personally who themselves have fallen victim to such controls – each of them have never reported it.

There are lots of factors to financial and economic abuse, but here are just some of them:

  • It often occurs alongside another form of abuse, such as physical, sexual or psychological abuse.
  • It is designed to create economic instability or make someone financially dependent.
  • It limits freedom.
  • It is difficult to leave an abuser.
  • The victims/survivors struggle to rebuild their lives afterwards.

Overpower, not empower

People ask how we can identify that financial and economic abuse is occurring. Abuse can take different forms, but here are a few ways you might think about:

  • The abuser controls what the victim/survivor spends, asking for receipts.
  • The abuser insists on money going into a joint bank account, or other account that the victim/survivor doesn’t have access to.
  • The abuser takes the victim’s/survivor’s salary so they have no money for themselves.
  • They make the victim/survivor ask for money and use it as a bargaining tool.
  • They spend money on credit in the victim’s/survivor’s name.

One of our own clients, who is a Certified Financial Abuse Specialist™ – we will call her Samantha – shared her story with us:

"I did not realise I was experiencing financial abuse. When I was in my relationship for 7 years, we had a joint bank account. I was in charge of all the finances, and he would just take money out as and when he pleased, this sometimes [coming out of] my wage.

When I left him, he refused to sell, pay or leave our joint mortgage property. Due to this, I had no choice but to let it go into repossession. This took years to do, with a lack of support from the bank. Finally, it’s completed but my credit scoring is so low, I cannot even get a phone contract in my own name. I know many survivors that are struggling with financial abuse and the impacts they have. However, it is not spoken about as largely as other forms of abuse."

The truth is, financial and economic abuse are real. If you relate to any element of the above, then you must speak out. Speak to a friend, a colleague at work, a family member or even one of the amazing groups and associations who are supporting victims/survivors every day. Helpful guidance can be found here.

With each year, we are seeing small changes to help victims/survivors move on with their lives after financial abuse. These include financial institutions writing-off debt, educating victims/survivors about finances, helping victims/survivors back into employment, and getting them the support they need. Banks have started to show big improvements in the UK: information can be found on your bank’s website as to what they can do to support you. However, there is still a lot that needs to be done, so that people like Samantha can rebuild their lives.

These forms of abuse can happen to anyone – any gender, any social class, any religion … anyone!

The more we talk about it, the more we will be doing to stop it. It is not OK. Nobody has the right to restrict, exploit or sabotage your access to whatever you need to thrive in your life.

The Standards International policy and resources on financial abuse spells out our commitment to tackling this issue. Our policy contains valuable resource links, information, support and assistance for victims of financial abuse.

The Financial Abuse Specialist Certification™ is a course of online learning and a final assessment designed to demonstrate your knowledge. Certified status is a unique global mark of best-practice excellence and a beacon of hope for victims/survivors who need it most.

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