Inside the book
Based on the real experiences of families across the UK, each chapter provides clear emotional, practical and legal guidance, including:
Understanding emotions, communicating honestly and navigating the early stages
Communication tools, cooperation and emotional readiness
Putting children first, creating parenting plans and managing new dynamics
Dividing finances, pensions and assets without hostility
Rebuilding identity, healing and creating a positive next chapter
Meet the author, Kate Daly
Kate Daly is a leading UK divorce expert, qualified relationship counsellor and co-founder of amicable, the UK’s trusted legal service for separating couples. As host of The Divorce Podcast, she has interviewed some of the world’s most respected thinkers on relationships, communication and co-parenting.After navigating her own divorce, Kate set out to change the way the UK approaches separation. amicable has helped more than 15,000 couples separate in a kinder and better way. In amicable divorce, she shares everything she's learned – offering a calmer, more collaborative way to end relationships and rebuild life afterwards.
Praise for amicable
Having experienced the devastation of divorce first-hand, I know how crucial it is to feel informed and supported at such a vulnerable time... I wish I'd had this book to turn to - it would have helped me feel less alone, less overwhelmed and far less hopeless.
amicable divorce is a powerful re-imagining of what separation can look like when children are truly put first. Kate Daly brings compassion, clarity and calm to a process that so often feels overwhelming and adversarial.
It lays down a framework to help you flourish after a very painful time... all told in the tone of your helpful, chatty, expert friend.
If you have bought this excellent book, buy another one and give it to a friend, we all know someone who is separating. Be part of that change, let's make the process of separation kinder, more accepting and less judgemental.
Few experiences can upend your life like divorce. With rare clarity and practical wisdom, Kate Daly demystifies the process and shows how to end a marriage with integrity and self-respect while staying squarely focused on your kids.
This book is clear and helpful. I like in particular Kate Daly's focus both practically and emotionally on how to handle something that I see a lot when couples are separating, namely their different levels of readiness for divorce.
FAQs
Is this book right for my separation?
Yes – whether you're married, in a civil partnership or cohabiting, this book offers practical guidance for navigating divorce and separation. It covers the emotional journey, legal process, financial agreements and co-parenting, helping you separate in a kinder and better way.
Will this book help if my divorce is high conflict?
Yes. The book provides tools to reduce conflict, improve communication and set healthy boundaries. Even if relations with your partner are strained, you'll find strategies to move forward more constructively – though the book also acknowledges when an amicable approach may not be possible (such as in cases of abuse).
Does the book cover finances and money?
Yes. Chapter 8 provides comprehensive guidance on dividing finances fairly, understanding your financial disclosure obligations, dealing with property and pensions, and reaching agreements using amicable’s GROW method (Goals, Reality, Options, Way Forward).
Does amicable divorce replace legal advice?
No. This book guides you through the divorce process and helps you make informed decisions, but it doesn't replace tailored legal advice. It shows you how to work more effectively with legal professionals or choose the right service for your situation.
Is this book helpful for co-parenting teenagers?
Yes. The book includes guidance for co-parenting children of all ages, but Chapter 6 includes specific guidance on co-parenting teenagers, including managing their unique emotional needs, introducing new partners, navigating blended families and adapting arrangements as children grow older.
Is this book suitable if I’ve experienced domestic abuse?
While this book explains the divorce process and financial arrangements in a clear and accessible way, it also makes clear that amicable approaches are not always appropriate – particularly in situations involving abuse or coercive control, where safety must come first and more traditional legal routes may be needed.
Some of the information may still be helpful for understanding how divorce works and what options are available. However, if you’re experiencing abuse, it’s important to seek specialist support alongside this. The book also signposts to organisations that can offer further help.
Ready to begin your kinder separation?
Take the first step towards a calmer, more collaborative divorce with Kate Daly's compassionate guide.