We were married for four years and have a 16-year-old daughter together. We were lucky as things were as amicable as they could have been when we decided to end the marriage. We knew how the childcare would work because our daughter is an independent teenager and wanted to stay living with me. I imagine it would be of been a lot harder if she were younger.
I’d known in my heart for a while that divorce was on the cards. The trouble was, I just couldn’t bring myself to take the first step. I didn’t want to regret not trying everything to make it work… I was confused and scared. I knew if I said anything, my husband was likely to lawyer-up and I’d be out-gunned as I couldn’t afford to spend lots of money. I needed help and then a friend recommended amicable.
Once we’d made the decision to end our marriage, we just wanted to get it done. We weren’t out to ‘get’ each other and had agreed between us how we’d split things and care for our children. So, it really was just making it official in the easiest way possible.
I’d been thinking about divorce for about four years before I started the process. I put it off because I was telling myself that I needed to stay together for the sake of the kids and my wife. Now that the divorce has been finalised, we have all moved on and I feel a massive sense of relief.