How to de-escalate arguments during divorce - The Divorce Podcast

If you’re finding conflict hard to manage during separation and co-parenting, this episode is full of practical tips to help you disagree in a calmer, more constructive way.

Constructive conflict: how to argue well during divorce

Kate is joined by psychotherapist and divorce coach Eve Stanway to explore why arguments aren’t always a bad thing – and how learning to disagree well can transform your relationship with your ex-partner and your children.

In this episode, we cover:

• Eve’s separation story and how arguments shaped it
• Why arguments don’t have to be destructive
• How to break cycles of unproductive conflict
• The key skills that stop disagreements from escalating
• Why self-regulation matters during separation and co-parenting
• How to have productive arguments with your children

This episode is for anyone navigating separation or co-parenting who wants to reduce conflict and communicate more effectively.

You can listen to the full episode below, or on your favourite listening platform such as Spotify, Apple Podcasts or YouTube Music.

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Meet Eve Stanway

Eve Stanway is a psychotherapist, break-up and divorce coach and published author who specialises in guiding parents, individuals and professionals through separation, co-parenting and recovery from toxic relationships. Drawing on over 25 years of psychotherapy experience, she teaches people how to approach difficult conversations with calm, courage and care, helping families reduce conflict and protect children through times of change.

You can learn more about Eve and get in touch with her on her website , and for more helpful communication tips, you can tune in to her brand-new podcast, Dare To Speak: Difficult Conversations That Change Everything.

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