One of the most common things I hear in my work as a divorce coach is ‘I want to get divorced, but I have no idea where to start’.
This post will take you through the entire process of divorce step-by-step but first, let’s look at what your options are.
Important update: in April 2019, the government confirmed that England & Wales will (at some point) change the current laws and introduce no-fault divorce. The information in this blog is still valid until the laws change, however when this will be has not yet been confirmed. For updates on no-fault divorce, please enter your email address below and we'll alert you about any important changes.
The legal steps you will need to take are almost always the same (if it’s a straightforward divorce/dissolution) but the way in which you manage the process varies.
You can manage the process yourself if you’d like to, you can divorce online using the government’s online portal.
There are low cost options for divorcing online if you’d prefer an expert to manage the process on your behalf. Book a free call here to discuss the options with one of our divorce coaches or do your own research online.
If you feel you need the protection of a lawyer or solicitor then this option is always available to you. This route is necessary if the divorce is the potential for international jurisdiction.
If your divorce / dissolution is amicable with no complications, there are definitely cheaper options available.
Most people are first-time and one-time purchasers of divorce services so, not surprisingly, getting the ball rolling feels daunting.
Arming yourself with an overview of the divorce process can reduce stress and help you, especially if you’re doing a DIY divorce.
Before entering step 1...
Once you have these things to hand, the below steps will guide you through how to file for a divorce in England and Wales :
This can be done online using the government website or there's a lot of options available as mentioned at the start of this article.
The agreed party should fill out the divorce petition. Be very careful to fill out each box as required – spell everything correctly and use the help printed on the side of the petition.
Pay the divorce court fee of £550. Enclose a cheque or tick the ‘pay by debit card box’. Check if you are exempt/eligible for a discount (you can check on the government website or give us a call).
You must send three copies of the divorce petition to the court along with your marriage certificate.
You need to send it to your local divorce center (you can find the address on the government website).
Wait for confirmation from the court and pay the court fees if you didn’t send a cheque.
Let your ex know their paperwork is on its way and that they will need to sign and return it to the court.
The Acknowledge of Service form needs to be completed by the other person. They will need to complete and send back to the court that confirms that they agree to the divorce / dissolution.
If they don’t or you don’t hear anything from the court you should ring the court helpline on 0300 303 0642. You may need to serve papers to ensure your ex receives them.
Once your ex has returned the AOS or the court has agreed your ex has received the divorce papers you will be able to apply for your Decree Nisi.
You can download the form from the government website (there are two forms you must fill in – the second form depends on the grounds you have used).
This is when a judge will review your application and either agree or disagree that you have grounds to divorce or dissolve your civil partnership.
If they agree the relationship has broken down and is past the point of repair, you will both receive a Decree Nisi certificate and a ‘Decree Nisi Pronouncement date’.
Six weeks and one day after the Decree Nisi Pronouncement date, the Petitioner (the person that filed the first petition) can apply for the Decree Absolute which is the final part of the process.
Once you receive your Decree Absolute – you are officially divorced. Keep the paperwork safe and start your new chapter!
The above steps explains the legal part of the divorce process only and doesn’t cover financial or childcare arrangements.
It depends. For a more detailed answer, we've created a guide to how long a divorce takes with tips on how to speed the process up.
On average, if there are no bumps in the road, it takes four to six months for all of the divorce papers to be completed you divorce/dissolution made legally binding through the courts. You can request a more personalised estimated by answering a few simple questions here.
It’s very important that you’re aware that ending your marriage or civil partnership through the courts does not end your financial relationship.
If you want or need to legalise your arrangements and end your financial claims you’ll need to get a consent order.
A consent order (sometimes called a financial order) is a completely different legal process that can be completed either as you divorce (generally the best option) or after.
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